Some people view being single during the holidays as the end of the world. The truth is, being single during the holidays gives you the opportunity to create a new beginning and focus on the world you imagine for yourself. If you are single during this holiday season, take time to refresh, reconnect and recommit yourself.

一些人把獨自過圣誕看成是世界末日。其實，在假日里單身給了你一個機會創(chuàng)造一個全新的開始，讓你專注營造一個自己想象中的世界。如果你在這種節(jié)假日里單身一人，花點時間讓自己振作精神、找回以前的聯(lián)系并且讓自己重新感受一下過去吧。

Refresh: Whether your last relationship ended three hours, three weeks, or three months ago, chances are it took something out of you. Now is the time to find your center and work on getting some of that energy you willfully gave up back. Take time away from the hustle of the holiday season to heal and focus on you. This could mean reading all the books you’ve said you wanted to but didn’t have time. It may mean spending some quality time at the gym or simply more time in silence and meditation. Whatever it looks like for you, refresh yourself with what fills you with peace and joy. This prepares you to be in sound mind, body and spirit for the next courtship. It will make you a better you for you and for your next him.

打起精神，重新振作：不管你上一段感情終結(jié)于三個小時前、三周前還是三個月前，它都把你的一些東西帶走了?，F(xiàn)在是你重新找回自己的中心，把你故意放棄的能量找回來的時候了。花點時間遠離假日的煩擾喧囂，為自己療傷，關(guān)注自身吧。你可以把一直說想看想看就是沒時間的所有書看掉，你可以在健身房度過一些有品質(zhì)的時間，或者可以更簡單的花點時間沉思冥想。不管什么方法，你都可以用一切讓你內(nèi)心充滿喜悅和平靜的東西給自己鼓勁。這會讓你為下一段約會準備好健康的頭腦、身體和心靈。這會打造出一個更好的你，既為了你自己，也是為了你的下一個他。

Reconnect: In addition to refreshing and reintroducing yourself to you, the holiday season is the perfect time to reengage with family, friends and former colleagues. While you might not be dating someone special, there are a number of people who think you are special. Those people would value spending time catching up with you. Quality phone calls, coffees and shopping trips with people at this time of year present chances to bond with those you care about. Show them how much they mean to you and seize this opportunity before life has you in the fast and furious dating lane again. Many of your favorite charities may also be looking for volunteers to help this season. Calling your preferred organization and finding out how you can be of assistance would be an important contribution. Get more out of your volunteer activity by reconnecting with a cause that's bigger than you are and matters most to you.

重新聯(lián)系：除了打起精神，重新找回自己之外，假日也是讓你和家人、朋友以及前同事重修舊好的最佳時機。你還沒跟哪個特別的人約會的時候，一大票人認為你是特別的。這些人會愿意花時間追趕你的步伐。這個時候給人打打有內(nèi)容的電話，喝杯咖啡或者逛逛街都能給你機會，讓你和那些你在乎的人在一起。讓他們看看他們對你有多重要，在生活再次把你拖進高速刺激的約會之路之前，抓住這個機會。一些你最喜歡的慈善機構(gòu)可能正在尋找志愿者在假日里幫忙。給你最喜歡的組織打個電話，看看你能幫忙做點什么，這都會是你最重要的貢獻。你可以從志愿活動中尋找到更多更大的更重要的事情。

Recommit: Once you begin to feel rejuvenated and interested in returning to the dating scene, look back and honestly assess your last relationships. Take a good look at the role you played in all of the successes and failures. Recommit yourself to doing all of the positive things you did to keep the lines of communication open and the relationships going. Also affirm that you will be equally as diligent in not bringing previous bad habits into a new relationship. In every failed relationship that you have had there is one common denominator—you! While we would all like to think we're perfect, none of us are; and sometimes the denial of our own imperfections hinder us from building healthy and sustainable relationships with others. Being candid about your problems is a major step toward finding and living the solutions to them. Recommit to doing the work that is necessary for you and your future partner.

重新體驗：一旦你覺得自己重生了，又想要重新回到約會氣氛中了，就誠實的回顧并且接受你的上一段感情吧。仔細想想你在這段感情中，在所有的甜蜜和痛苦中扮演了什么角色吧。把所有保持交流暢通，讓感情繼續(xù)的事情重新做一遍。同時確認你會同樣避免把之前的壞習(xí)慣帶入一段新感情。你經(jīng)歷的每一段失敗的感情都有一個公分母——你自己！我們都愿意覺得自己是完美的，但我們沒人是完美的；有時候否認我們的不完美會阻礙我們和他人建立健康的持續(xù)的感情。對自己的問題保持坦白是朝著發(fā)現(xiàn)和解決問題前進的重要一步。重新體驗一遍對你和你將來的另一半都是很有必要的事情。