1. Everyone needs free space
每個(gè)人都需要自由空間

Many people think that a true love means that they should spend 24 hours a day together with the person they love. Such schedule will make you lose your identity in a quite short period of time. Remember, everyone needs some free time and space to satisfy their personal needs and do things that make them feel alive. By all means, don’t let your identity die, because it will be difficult to bounce back.
許多人認(rèn)為，真愛意味著他們應(yīng)該24小時(shí)和愛人在一起。然而這樣的日程安排會(huì)讓你很快就失去自我。記住，每個(gè)人都需要一些自由時(shí)間跟空間來滿足他們個(gè)人的需求、做一些能讓他們感覺充滿活力的事情。無論如何，不要喪失自我，因?yàn)檎一刈晕視?huì)很困難。

2. The lust period is temporary
激情只是暫時(shí)的

This wonderful period usually makes you fly on the wings of love. When you are extremely happy, you spend hours dressing to impress your partner and talking about love till the dawn. Unfortunately, the period of butterflies in the stomach ends fast andamorousness?turns into a real and adequate love. Love is the period when you are ready to share both good and bad with the person you love. Love really grows when you have no fear to lose and when you absolutely accept all pros and cons of your significant other.
戀愛中激情四射的這個(gè)奇妙階段，通常會(huì)讓你戀愛的小翅膀飛個(gè)不停。當(dāng)你非常高興的時(shí)候，你會(huì)花很多時(shí)間打扮自己來打動(dòng)你的伴侶，跟他談?wù)搻矍橹钡教烀鳌２恍业氖?，這段心中小鹿亂撞的時(shí)期會(huì)很快結(jié)束，激情變成了一種真正充分的愛。這段時(shí)期的愛情，是你準(zhǔn)備好跟你的愛人分享你的好與壞。愛只有在你不懼怕失去、完全接受另一半的好與壞的時(shí)候才會(huì)真正成長。

3. Other people don’t belong to you
別人并不屬于你一個(gè)人

Nowadays we live in a democratic world where people are free and have equal rights and responsibilities. Moreover, we are free to express ourselves and lead an independent life. No matter how long you’ve been together, you should understand that the person you love isn’t your property. People who really love each other are committed to this beautiful feeling and treat each other with respect. Your love is your?muse?but not your possession. You cannot control the behavior and every step of your partner, because it will only break trust in your relationship. The only adequate thing you can do is to trust him and try to create common rules of commitment both of you should stick to.
如今的我們生活在一個(gè)民主的社會(huì)里，每個(gè)人都是自由的、他們擁有同等的權(quán)利和責(zé)任。除此之外，我們可以自由地表達(dá)自己的想法，過獨(dú)立的生活。不管你們?cè)谝黄鸲嗑昧?，你都?yīng)該明白你愛的那個(gè)人不是你的個(gè)人財(cái)產(chǎn)。真正相愛的兩個(gè)人會(huì)對(duì)這段美妙的感情履行承諾、互相尊重。你的愛是你自己的想法而非真正占有。你不能控制另一半的所有行為，因?yàn)檫@只會(huì)破壞你們之間的信任。你唯一能做的就是相信他，試著去創(chuàng)造一種你們兩個(gè)人都能遵守的承諾規(guī)則。

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