【相關(guān)】失戀告訴我們的7件小事（上）>>

4. Complete yourself
完善你自己

I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
我贊成其他人能夠幫助你提高自我、并且讓你的生活更加美好和豐富多彩，但是你應(yīng)該意識(shí)到，人們永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)去成全你或者滿足你的期望。沒(méi)有必要事事都要得到另一半的批準(zhǔn)。首先，在能夠和愛(ài)人分享你的愛(ài)之前，你要學(xué)會(huì)愛(ài)自己。試著提升自己，慢慢地你會(huì)變得更加自信、更加完整。這就需要你改變你的行動(dòng)、想法、情感和言談舉止。

5. Don’t even try to change your partner
不要試圖改變你的另一半

You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche?has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.
在這個(gè)世界上你可以很多東西，但是幾乎不可能改變另一半的觀點(diǎn)和習(xí)慣。你所能做的只是把一些正確的方法展現(xiàn)給他們，如果他們內(nèi)心想要改變的話，他們會(huì)主動(dòng)做出改變的。人類(lèi)的靈魂會(huì)習(xí)慣性忽視別人強(qiáng)加給他們的思想或行為，用強(qiáng)加的方式可能會(huì)讓你的另一半暫時(shí)得到提高，但是不久之后他們又會(huì)回到原來(lái)的樣子。如果你不能忍受另一半的某些缺點(diǎn)，你就應(yīng)該把精力放在改變自己身上，用不同的方式去應(yīng)付各種狀況。不管面對(duì)什么事情，都最好保持冷靜。

6. Get rid of your inner conflicts
擺脫你內(nèi)心的糾結(jié)

Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.
你在戀愛(ài)中的態(tài)度和行為舉止，都會(huì)反映出你潛意識(shí)里的恐懼和擔(dān)憂。如果你想要有一段健康的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系，你就應(yīng)該從治愈你內(nèi)心世界的恐懼和擔(dān)憂開(kāi)始。還有，你需要盡可能地做一些提升自己自尊心的事情。開(kāi)始愛(ài)護(hù)自己，這樣你才能夠去愛(ài)別人。

7. Learn how to let go gracefully
學(xué)著優(yōu)雅地放手

It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.
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似乎有一些戀愛(ài)總會(huì)教我們?cè)趺慈ンw面地放手。盡管可能有機(jī)會(huì)建立一個(gè)幸福和健康的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系，但經(jīng)過(guò)相當(dāng)多的反思之后，你會(huì)明白這份愛(ài)不值得你再繼續(xù)花費(fèi)時(shí)間和精力了。不快樂(lè)的戀愛(ài)教會(huì)你如何為幸福做斗爭(zhēng)。除此之外，你應(yīng)該把握這次對(duì)過(guò)去放手的機(jī)會(huì)，從而能夠找尋你生命中的真愛(ài)、并和TA培養(yǎng)一段持久有愛(ài)的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系。當(dāng)你再次面臨分手的時(shí)候，別泄氣，因?yàn)檫@有助于你換個(gè)視角看世界、并開(kāi)始新的戀情。