女人覺得男人很有魅力的7個特質(zhì)
作者:商綺羽 譯
來源:lifehack
2014-02-27 09:00
Women search high and low for a truly great guy. When I was in my teens, I thought I could have it all: the guy with the model looks, fabulous family, fantastic job, who knows his purpose in life and knows to automatically rub my feet when I get home from work.
女人總是尋尋覓覓,期待遇到完美的白馬王子。年輕時我就以為自己可以擁有一切:那個男人相貌英俊、家境殷實、工作體面;他不僅清楚自己的人生目標(biāo),還懂得在我下班回家后對我倍加呵護(hù)。
Obviously, I had a quick wake-up call that the fairy tale I dreamed of didn’t exist! That didn’t mean I couldn’t have what I wanted, it just meant I had to reevaluate some of the qualities that I wanted my partner to have. Here are seven of the most important qualities women find attractive in men:
顯然,我很快被敲了一記警鐘,意識到這種童話根本就不存在!當(dāng)然,這并不表示我無法擁有自己渴望的東西,只是說明我應(yīng)該重新考慮對另一半品質(zhì)的期許。下面就是女人認(rèn)為男人最有魅力的七大特質(zhì):
1. An ability to enjoy the present moment
能夠珍惜當(dāng)下
With how busy we are and how connected we are to everyone and everything virtually, it is so attractive when a man can put his phone down, turn off the TV, shut down the computer and just enjoy being present. It is nice to be connected and be able to access almost any information that we need at the drop of a dime, but to be able to shut down without getting antsy to get back to Facebook or football is something you don’t come by too often.
現(xiàn)實中,每個人都忙于應(yīng)付各種人際關(guān)系和各類繁瑣事務(wù),要是某個男人能夠放下電話、關(guān)掉電視、合上電腦,愿意單純陪你享受此時此刻的話,那真是太有風(fēng)度了!隨時保持聯(lián)絡(luò)并獲取各類信息縱然很有必要,但若能暫時屏蔽Facebook或球賽,豈不是更難能可貴?
2. Knowing your purpose
清楚自己的目標(biāo)
Nothing is more sexy than a man who isn’t afraid to go for what he was sent here to do. There are a ton of men out there who believe they need to be “big strong men” and do what they were taught, but it takes a truly special man to put himself out there and follow what he was meant to do.
如果一個男人能勇往直前地追求自己的目標(biāo),那真是再有魅力不過了!這世上有很多人都覺得自己應(yīng)該遵循教誨、努力成為“強(qiáng)大的男人”,但真正身體力行去做的,卻只有那么寥寥數(shù)個。
3. A man who is motivated and driven is awesome
有動力很上進(jìn)的男人很棒
No, I’m not talking about an expensive car. I’m talking about a man who has the ability to go after what he wants. Ambition is something that women find very attractive in men. Not ambition in the sense that you knock other people down to build yourself up, but in the fact that you will work hard to get what you want and help others to do the same thing.
這里要講的不是名車,而是強(qiáng)調(diào)男人應(yīng)該能夠努力爭取自己渴望的東西。女人認(rèn)為雄心壯志的男人很有魅力。這里的壯志不是說你可以撂倒他人強(qiáng)大自我,而是說你能夠通過努力工作來得到自己渴望的東西,同時還能向他人伸出援手。
4. Attractiveness comes from making us laugh
魅力來自逗人歡笑
It has been my experience in all of my relationships—and with men I’ve had crushes on—that I would choose the man who made me laugh over the drop dead sexy one. Every. Single.Time. Women want a guy who values what a good laugh can do for your body and soul. Women truly appreciate men who can make them laugh and laugh at themselves too.
憑我的戀愛經(jīng)驗——在迷戀過的男人中,我寧可選擇能讓我歡笑的男人,也不要帥得酷斃了的家伙。真的每一次都是這樣。女人喜歡能讓自己身心愉悅、開懷大笑的男人,也真心欣賞那些不僅逗人開心也自得其樂的男人。
5. Honesty and trustworthiness
誠實并值得信任
I don’t know about you, but knowing that I can trust a man is so important. Although, if my butt still looks fat in those jeans, I don’t want to know! In all seriousness?though, knowing that a man will tell me the truth is very important. Communication and trust are two of the biggest things that make or break relationships.
不知道你怎么想,但我覺得能夠信任一個男人很重要?;蛟S穿上牛仔褲后我的臀部還是不夠好看,但我就是不希望被說出來!可是正兒八經(jīng)些,我又確實希望男人能實話實說。溝通和信任是決定維系或搞砸戀愛關(guān)系的兩大關(guān)鍵所在。
6. A man who takes care of himself is sexy
能照顧好自己的男人很有魅力
Something that is so attractive in men is when they take care of themselves. Now that doesn’t mean you have to be pumping iron all day, every day, but to really know what types of foods you’re putting into your body and how to take care of it is pretty darn sexy.
如果一個男人能夠照顧好自己,那么他就很有魅力。當(dāng)然,這不是要求男人每天堅持舉啞鈴練肌肉,而是希望他能知道如何健康飲食并照顧好自己——這樣的男人很有吸引力。
7. A man who is supportive of our dreams and goals
能夠支持女人夢想和目標(biāo)的男人
When a man stands behind me 100%, no matter what, it shows how much he cares and truly believes in me. Being with someone who believes in you and your potential, and vice versa, will create a different dynamic in your relationship. There is less tension and less negativity because of how you believe in each other.
當(dāng)一個男人100%為我加油鼓勁時,不管怎樣,我都認(rèn)為這代表他有多么在乎我、多么相信我。和相信彼此及各自潛能的人在一起的話,倆人的關(guān)系會充滿截然不同的活力。因為你們相互信任,所以也就少了很多緊張和負(fù)面情緒。
These are just a few of the many qualities that women find attractive in men. What qualities am I missing? What do you find attractive in men?
以上只是女人覺得男人有魅力的部分特質(zhì),或許還有些特質(zhì)是我不曾發(fā)現(xiàn)的。你覺得怎樣的男人有魅力?