問問自己的心:和自己的六次對話
作者:商綺羽 譯
來源:marcandangel
2013-07-22 08:30
What can you tell yourself that you don’t already know? A whole lot.
如何自己發(fā)掘未知呢?辦法很多。
In the privacy of your mind you constantly talk to yourself. Your inner monologue might seem pointless at times, but the truth is the act of talking to yourself can help you learn and maintain a positive lifelong trajectory. Therefore, collected below are six effective topics for self-talk, so the next time you talk to yourself you will know exactly what to say.
內心深處你總是在跟自己對話,有時這種自言自語看似不得要領,但卻能使你養(yǎng)成并保持積極的習慣。所以請看以下六種自我對話方式,學著下次澄清自己的所向所求吧。
1. What you love.
你喜歡什么。
When it comes to lifelong labors and dreams, lukewarm is no good. Hot is no good either. White hot and passionate is the only way to work and live.
提起終生職業(yè)與夢想,保持中庸并不見得明智,當然過于激進也不行。但熱情在工作和生活中確實必不可少。
Invest your thoughts and time in the things you love. Don’t wait around for too long to get involved in something that moves you. Realize how important it is to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, explore it. Get up and go after it. Embrace it, hug it, love it, and above all, let your passion flow freely.
把時間和精力投入到喜歡的事情上,千萬別在喜歡的事情面前徘徊不決。積極生活很重要。如果對某件事感興趣,不要猶豫,趕緊行動,全力以赴去做好,讓激情盡情釋放吧!
The most important decision you will ever make is what you do with the limited time that has been given to you. Before you know it you’ll be asking, “How did it get so late so soon?” So put your thoughts and time to good use, and let yourself be drawn to the strange pull of what you love – doing so will not lead you astray. Live your life so that when you’re old, you never have to let the person you became fantasize about the person you were capable of being.
最重要的決定就是如何分配有限的時間。你可能常常疑惑“時間怎么過得這么快?”,既然如此,更應該把精力和時間花在熱愛的事情上——別擔心,你不會因此走火入魔。盡情生活,到老你會欣然發(fā)現(xiàn):你已長成自己渴望的那個人。
2. Your own inner truth.
你的真實自我。
Why worry about what others think of you? Should you have more confidence in their opinions than you do your own?
干嘛擔心別人怎么看你?與其相信別人的眼光,不如相信自己的判定!
Truth be told, how others see you is not nearly as important as how you see yourself. To be happy means to live confidently in your own skin – to be faithful to that which exists within you. What you’re doing by being yourself is you’re keeping it real, and you’re being really brave.
說實話,別人怎么看你根本就不重要。要想活得開心,首先要對自己有信心——完全相信自己的潛力。勇敢做你自己!
When you choose to stay true to YOU, some people might refuse to accept you for who you are. Forget them. Rather than being fake and incurring the pain and confusion of trying to be someone you’re not, choose to stand strong, even at the risk of incurring ridicule. When you are comfortable in your skin, not everyone in this world will like you, and that’s perfectly OK. You could be the ripest, juiciest apple in the world, and there’s going to be at least a few people out there who hate apples.
有時當你做真實的自己時,會遭到別人的冷眼。去他們的吧!與其困惑而痛苦地假裝他人,倒不如堅強活出自我,哪怕受人挖苦諷刺。不是所有人都喜歡真實的你,但那又怎樣!或許你是世上最紅最甜的蘋果,但要是有人本來就討厭蘋果呢?
3. What you are willing to sacrifice for your goals.
為了目標,你愿意犧牲什么?
When it comes to goal setting, you must be specific. If you find yourself talking to yourself about wanting everything, it means you are treacherously close to achieving nothing. It means you are avoiding the effort required to get anywhere at all.
目標制定必須詳細。如果你這也想要那也想要,很可能會一無所獲。因為你只想成果而不愿為特定目標付諸切實努力。
Usually, it’s not too difficult to decide what you want your life to look like in a year from now. What is difficult is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things that must be done to get to where you want to go.
通常一年內的目標并不難決定,難的是為了實現(xiàn)目標而甘心作出放棄。
This takes serious commitment, and it requires transient discomfort. When you decide to aim for something higher, you must be willing to suffer a bit of vertigo – the fear of falling. And you must be willing to fight against that voice of emptiness below you which tempts and lures you to believe that you don’t have enough strength to ascend any higher.
你需要全力以赴,還得忍受暫時的苦痛。目標越高,擔心失敗的困擾也越多。而你則必須戰(zhàn)勝內心那個不斷引誘你的消極思維,說什么你根本沒有足夠的能力更上一層樓。
4. The little victories of each day.
每天勝利一點點。
Sometimes the human mind operates in mysterious ways when it comes to achievements and happiness. We dream of something and we wait and wait and feel like it’s taking forever to arrive. Then it does and it’s over, and all we really want is to curl back up in that moment before things change again.
有時成功和幸福來得太突然,唬得人們猝手不及:我們是那么渴望,等了又等,總以為成功還遙遙無期,然而它卻瞬間曇花般出現(xiàn)了,于是我們驚愕,滿心期望一切能再演繹一次。
Although there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a fulfilled dream, you must realize that it’s just one small moment of your life. Like every other moment, this one instance of victory is fleeting. Lifelong happiness is not found in any one particular moment, it’s found in all the moments and memories leading up to our inevitable sunset – all the small victories of each day that fall between the big events.
盡情享受勝利時刻無可厚非,但也得提醒自己:這只是人生中的一個小插曲罷了。這點成功也會成為過往。人生的幸福不在于這一時半刻的成功,而在于漫漫歲月中的所有勝利和回憶——積少成多,小勝利終將匯成大喜悅!
Ultimately you will realize that your highest aspirations should just be a target – a point on the horizon to step towards. You may not ever reach it, but you can always look up after every small step and see beauty of where that step has taken you.
最后或許你會發(fā)現(xiàn),你最渴求的目標只有一個——它遠遠發(fā)著光,等著你去追尋?;蛟S它總是可望而不可及,但你總能仰望著它,一點一點靠近,享受沿途的風景。
5. How to help others.
如何幫助他人。
Talk yourself into helping someone today.
試著幫助他人吧。
No exercise is better for your heart and mind than reaching down and helping others up. Happiness and success in life doesn’t come through selfishness, but through selflessness. Everything you do comes back around to you.
再沒什么比幫助他人更能愉悅身心了。幸福圓滿的生活不是來自自私,而是得益于無私。更何況,好心總會有好報。
The best way to feel alive is to get up and do something positive for someone else. Don’t wait around for good things to happen in this world. If you go out and make good things happen, you will fill the world with happiness and you will make yourself smile in the process.
想要盡情生活?那就熱情幫助他人!不要總等著幸運降臨,而應自己創(chuàng)造幸運,這樣你會發(fā)現(xiàn)生活充滿歡樂。
Greet people with positivity. Encourage them. Compliment them. Lend them a helping hand. Notice their progress, cheer them on and make them smile. Love and kindness is contagious. The more happiness and success you help others find, the more happiness and success you will find every single day of your life.
熱情跟人打招呼。鼓勵贊美他人,向他們伸出援手,關注他們的進步,為他們加油鼓勁,讓他們開心快樂。你傳遞的快樂越多,收獲也就越多。
6. The immediate reality of your own happiness.
創(chuàng)造自己的快樂。
Right now, you have more than enough to be happy.
現(xiàn)在,你一定有足夠的理由快樂。
Right now, you have the full capacity to find something small to celebrate.
現(xiàn)在,你絕對能從細微之處發(fā)掘快樂。
Right now, you have a choice to make.
現(xiàn)在,選擇權就在你的手中!
Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy. True happiness comes from within, when you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions, and when you choose to focus on what you have, not what you haven’t.
別再傻傻等著別人給你帶來快樂。真正的快樂源于內心——只要你不讓別人影響你的情緒,只要你珍惜擁有、淡看沒有。
One of the great secrets to happiness is to pay more attention to the beginnings than the endings. So many people say they want a new life, but then they take the new one they get every morning for granted. Don’t do this. Don’t wait until your life is almost over to realize how great it has been. A great life begins right now, when you stop wanting a better one.
快樂的一大秘訣就是:多注重開頭而非結果。很多人都說要過新生活,但新的一天開始時,他們卻渾然不覺。真不應該??!千萬別等白了頭才幡然悔恨。新生活就是當下,別再徒然期待將來如何如何了!
Scream it out loud: “Life is good!”
大聲吶喊吧——“生活很美好!”