生活不只是生存,教你學(xué)會(huì)生活的30種方式(二)
"The proper function of man is to live - not to exist." -- Jack London
“人應(yīng)該生活,而不僅僅是生存。”——杰克·倫敦。
Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it.
很多時(shí)候我們的生活就好像是開(kāi)著自動(dòng)擋,像是在敷衍了事,每天的生活都和前一天一模一樣。
That's fine, and comfortable, until you have gone through another year without having done anything, without having really lived life.
這樣的日子過(guò)得不錯(cuò)、很舒坦,直到你發(fā)現(xiàn)這一年又什么也沒(méi)做,沒(méi)有真正地享受生活。
That's fine, until you have reached old age and look back on life with regrets. That's fine, until you see your kids go off to college and realize that you missed their childhoods.
這樣的日子過(guò)得不錯(cuò),直到你變老,回首往事,滿是遺憾。這樣的日子過(guò)得挺好,直到你看著孩子們都去上大學(xué)了,你才意識(shí)到自己錯(cuò)過(guò)了孩子們的童年。
It's not fine. If you want to truly live life, to really experience it, to enjoy it to the fullest, instead of barely
scraping by and only living a life of existence, then you need to find ways to break free from the mold and drink from life.
這樣的日子其實(shí)過(guò)得并不好。如果你想真正地生活,真正地體驗(yàn)生活,最大程度地享受生活,而不是勉強(qiáng)度日只為了生存,那么你應(yīng)該想辦法打破常規(guī)。
What follows is just a list of ideas, obvious ones mostly that you could have thought of yourself, but that I hope are useful
reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. If you find this useful, print it out, and start using it. Today.
下面是我的一些想法,很明顯大部分內(nèi)容可能你自己就能想得到,但是我希望可以真的提醒你。我們都有需要提醒的時(shí)候。如果你覺(jué)得有用,可以打印出來(lái),并開(kāi)始做。今天就動(dòng)手吧。
1. Love.
愛(ài)。
Perhaps the most important. Fall in love, if you aren't already. If you have, fall in love with your partner all over again. Abandon caution and let your heart be broken. Or love family members, friends, anyone -- it doesn't have to be romantic love. Love all of humanity, one person at a time.
也許這是最重要的。如果還沒(méi)有愛(ài)的人的話,那就去愛(ài)一個(gè)人。如果你已經(jīng)有了愛(ài)人,那么再和你的伴侶墜入一次愛(ài)河吧。別太謹(jǐn)慎小心,就算心碎也沒(méi)關(guān)系。或者去愛(ài)家人、朋友,去愛(ài)任何人,不一定非得是浪漫的愛(ài)情。愛(ài)所有的人,一次只愛(ài)一個(gè)。
2. Get outside.
出去走走。
Don't let yourself be shut indoors. Go out when it's raining. Walk on the beach. Hike through the woods. Swim in a freezing lake. Bask in the sun. Play sports, or walk barefoot through grass. Pay close attention to nature.
不要老讓自己呆著屋子里。下雨天時(shí)出去走走,在海灘上散散步,徒步穿過(guò)森林,在冰冷的湖中游泳,曬曬太陽(yáng),進(jìn)行體育活動(dòng),或赤腳在草地上走走。和大自然緊密接觸。
3. Savor food.
品嘗食物。
Don't just eat your food, but really enjoy it. Feel the
texture,
the bursts of flavors. Savor every bite. If you limit your intake of sweets, it will make the small treats you give yourself (berries or dark chocolate are my favorites) even more enjoyable. And when you do have them, really, really savor them. Slowly.
不要只是吃東西,而要去真正地品嘗食物。感受食物的口感和味道。仔細(xì)品嘗每一口。如果你平時(shí)限制自己吃甜食,那么每一口(我最喜歡漿果或黑巧克力)品嘗起來(lái)會(huì)更加可口。當(dāng)你吃的時(shí)候,一定要好好地慢慢地品嘗。
4. Create a morning ritual.
形成早晨的習(xí)慣。
Wake early and greet the day. Watch the sun rise. Out loud, tell yourself that you will not waste this day, which is a gift. You will be
compassionate to your fellow human beings, and live every moment to its fullest. Stretch or meditate or exercise as part of your ritual. Enjoy some coffee.
早點(diǎn)兒起床,迎接新一天的到來(lái)??粗?yáng)升起,大聲告訴自己你不會(huì)浪費(fèi)這一天,因?yàn)檫@是份禮物。你會(huì)對(duì)自己的同胞充滿同情慈悲之心,也會(huì)充分利用生活中的每時(shí)每刻。把伸展身體、冥想或鍛煉身體作為每天日?;顒?dòng)的一部分,記得享受美味的咖啡。
5. Take chances.
冒險(xiǎn)。
We often live our lives too cautiously, worried about what might go wrong. Be bold, risk it all. Quit your job and go to business for yourself (plan it out first!), or go up to that girl you've liked for a long time and ask her out. What do you have to lose?
我們通常都活得過(guò)于謹(jǐn)慎,擔(dān)憂著怕自己哪里會(huì)出錯(cuò)。勇敢一點(diǎn),冒冒險(xiǎn)。辭去工作,為自己打工(但先要計(jì)劃好!)或約會(huì)心儀已久的女孩。你還有什么可失去的呢?
6. Follow excitement.
追隨你的興奮點(diǎn)。
Try to find the things in life that excite you, and then go after them. Make life one exciting adventure after another (with perhaps some quiet times in between).
尋找生活中能讓你興奮的事情,然后就去做吧。讓生活變成一件接一件的冒險(xiǎn)。(不過(guò)中間應(yīng)該留一些安靜的時(shí)光。)
7.Find your passion.
找到自己的激情。
Similar to the above tip, this one asks you to find your calling. Make your living by doing the thing you love to do. First, think about what you really love to do. There may be many things. Find out how you can make a living doing it. It may be difficult, but you only live once.
和上面的建議相似,這條建議是讓你去尋找自己的使命。做自己喜歡的事情來(lái)維持生計(jì)。首先,想清楚自己真正喜歡做什么??赡苡泻芏喾N。找出一種你既喜歡又能謀生的工作。這可能很難,但是畢竟你只活一次。
8.Get out of your cubicle.
走出你的格子間。
Do you sit all day in front of computer, shuffling papers and taking phone calls and chatting on the Internet? Don't waste your days like this. Break free from the cubicle environment, and do your work on a laptop, in a coffee shop, or on a boat, or in a log cabin. This may require a change of jobs, or becoming a
freelancer. It's worth it.
你是不是整天都坐在電腦前,不斷處理瑣碎的文件、打電話、在網(wǎng)上聊天?不要把你的時(shí)光都這樣浪費(fèi)掉。從格子間出來(lái),在咖啡店里、船上或一個(gè)小木屋里用筆記本工作。這樣的話你可能需要更換工作或成為自由職業(yè)者。但是這樣做是值得的。
9.Turn off the TV.
關(guān)掉電視。
How many hours will we waste away in front of the boob tube? How many hours do we have to live? Do the math, then
unplug the TV. Only plug it back in when you have a DVD of a movie you love. Otherwise, keep it off and find other stuff to do. Don't know what to do? Read further.
你有多少時(shí)間是浪費(fèi)在電視機(jī)前?我們活著又有多長(zhǎng)時(shí)間?計(jì)算一下,然后關(guān)上電視。只在你有一張想看的DVD時(shí)再把電視打開(kāi),其他的時(shí)間還是找點(diǎn)兒別的事情去做。不知道做什么?那就繼續(xù)讀下去吧。
10. Pull away from Internet.
斷開(kāi)網(wǎng)絡(luò)。
You're reading something on the Internet right now. And it is just more wasting away of your precious time. You cannot get these minutes back. Unplug the Internet, then get out of your office or house. Right now! And go and do something.
你現(xiàn)在正在網(wǎng)上沖浪。但是上網(wǎng)其實(shí)浪費(fèi)了你的寶貴時(shí)光。你不可能讓時(shí)光倒流。斷掉網(wǎng)絡(luò),從辦公室或屋子里走出去。現(xiàn)在就做吧!出去做點(diǎn)兒別的事情。
11. Travel.
旅行。
Sure, you want to travel some day. When you have vacation time, or when you're older. Well, what are you waiting for? Find a way to take a trip, if not this month, then sometime soon. You may need to sell your car or stop your
cable bill and stop eating out to do it, but make it happen. You are too young to not see the world. If need be, find a way to make a living by freelancing, then work while you travel. Only work an hour or two a day. Don't check email but once a week. Then use the rest of the time to see the world.
當(dāng)然,有一天你會(huì)去旅行的,等你有假期時(shí),或等你年紀(jì)再大一點(diǎn)兒。好吧,你到底在等什么?想辦法去旅行吧,如果這個(gè)月不行,那就過(guò)段日子吧。你可能需要賣掉你的車或停掉有線電視或不能再外出就餐了,不管怎么樣,讓旅行成真吧。趁著年輕去看看世界。如果需要的話,可以找份自由職業(yè)者的工作,邊旅行邊工作。一天工作一到兩個(gè)小時(shí),一周查一次電子郵件。剩下的時(shí)間用來(lái)看世界。
12. Rediscover what's important.
重新發(fā)現(xiàn)重要的事情。
Take an hour and make a list of everything that's important to you. Add to it everything that you want to do in life. Now cut that list down to 4-5 things. Just the most important things in your life. This is your core list. This is what matters. Focus your life on these things. Make time for them.
花一個(gè)小時(shí),把對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)重要的事情都列出來(lái)。把你想做的事情都列上去。然后把里面的內(nèi)容縮減到4到5項(xiàng)。只找出你生活中最重要的事情,這是你的核心清單。這是對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)重要的內(nèi)容。關(guān)注這些事情吧,為這些事情留些時(shí)間。
13. Exercise.
鍛煉身體。
Get off the couch and go for a walk. Eventually try running. Or do some push ups and crunches. Or swim or bike or row. Or go for a hike. Whatever you do, get active, and you'll love it. And life will be more alive.
離開(kāi)沙發(fā)去散散步。試著跑起來(lái)?;蜃鲆恍└┡P撐和仰臥起坐,或游泳、騎車、劃船。還可以去遠(yuǎn)足。無(wú)論你做什么,活動(dòng)起來(lái),你會(huì)喜歡上運(yùn)動(dòng)的。你的生活也會(huì)更加地富有生機(jī)。
14. Be positive.
保持積極的態(tài)度。
Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can't do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Solutions. You can do this!
學(xué)會(huì)認(rèn)識(shí)到自己內(nèi)心中的負(fù)面思想。像自我懷疑、對(duì)他人挑剔、抱怨、不想做事情的理由,這些都是。當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己有這樣的想法時(shí)要阻止自己,用積極的思想代替。你能行的!
15. Open your heart.
敞開(kāi)你的心扉。
Is your heart a closed bundle of scar tissue? Learn to open it, have it ready to receive love, to give love
unconditionally. If you have a problem with this, talk to someone about it. And practice makes perfect.
你的心中是不是滿是傷痕?學(xué)著去放開(kāi),去準(zhǔn)備接受愛(ài)、無(wú)條件地給予愛(ài)。如果你沒(méi)法這樣做,和別人聊一聊。熟能生巧。