怎么培養(yǎng)自信？通過夸獎(jiǎng)就可以嗎？Tal博士說，盲目的夸獎(jiǎng)是不正確滴……



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How about this? Self-esteem. How do you increase self-esteem? If I have to do a poll here, most people guaranteed would say praise people. Praise people, praise children, it will enhance your self-esteem. Right, partially right. And if it's taken as the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, it's detrimental. Because there is a lot of research that shows when we praise people indiscriminately, we are actually in the long run potentially hurting them more than we are helping them. Whether it's their wellbeing as well as their success. But the self-esteem movement mostly says praise people, praise children all the time.
接下來談?wù)勛孕?，如何培養(yǎng)自信？如果我在這里做一項(xiàng)民意調(diào)查，保證大多數(shù)人，會(huì)說通過贊美來提升。贊美別人，贊美孩子，這將增強(qiáng)你的自信。說對了一部分。但如果把這當(dāng)作全部的真理，則是有害的。因?yàn)橛泻芏嘌芯匡@示，當(dāng)我們不加區(qū)別地贊揚(yáng)別人，我們實(shí)際上是在長期地，默默地傷害他們，而非幫助他們，無論是對他們的幸福感，還是成功。但關(guān)于提升自信卻有個(gè)常見的說法，就是要經(jīng)常贊美別人和孩子。