This hurtful,infantile argument illustrates how spouses,instead of looking for love,may look for flaws. It is a way of seeing. Author Judith Viorst once wrote, "Infatuation is when you think he's as gorgeous as Robert Redford,as pure as Solzhenitsyn,as funny as Woody Allen,as athletic as Jimmy Connors,and as smart as Albert Einstein. Love is when you realize he's as gorgeous as Woody Allen,as smart as Jimmy Connors,as funny as Solzhenitsyn,as athletic as Albert Einstenin,and nothing like Robert Redford in any category--but you'll take him anyway." This law of lasting love instructs us to look with instead of for love.